This is one of my biggest pet peeves – watching influencers, RDs, therapists, etc, from many of the anti-diet culture communities, like intuitive eating and body positivity, shame people for not 100% adopting their philosophies.
This creates much of the problematic all-or-nothing, black and white thinking that diet culture is known for.
It keeps people who are stuck in diet culture from taking the steps towards redefining their self-worth outside of their body, accepting themselves, and learning to trust themselves to eat again.
Not everyone is ready for a full on embrace of these ideologies, nor does everyone have to passionately reject every aspect of diet culture in order to live their best life.
You have to meet people where they are in their journey and understand where THEY want to go.
This whole “you’re either with us or you’re against us” mentality keeps people stuck where they are – preventing them from taking progressive small steps towards improving their quality of life.
It’s hypocritical to preach body autonomy while also telling people what they are allowed to do with their bodies or how they’re allowed to think about their eating or exercise.
Not everyone who counts calories and weighs themselves is a victim of diet culture.
Not everyone who wants to lose weight is a victim of diet culture.
Not everyone who likes to be strong or build muscle in the gym is a victim of diet culture.
Sure, there absolutely are people doing these things that are stuck in diet culture and might not even know it. And bringing awareness (not guilt and shame) to the situation is extremely helpful.
But there are just as many people doing these things that are perfectly happy. And that doesn’t make them victims of diet culture, nor does it make the anti-diet “authorities” better than or more enlightened than you.
You do you. If you’re struggling with your body image or food obsession or hating exercise, then take some small steps towards addressing those concerns.
And while you’re doing that, ignore the holier than though vocal minority in these communities, and understand they’re just projecting their own self-judgements onto you.