Last week I shared a progress update on my physique change goals and I got an email from someone that really irritated me.
She gave me a lecture about how what I said was out of alignment with what I normally talk about. That my progress photo was NSFW. That I usually preach food and body freedom and self-acceptance and that since I felt the need to change my body that something bad must be going on in my life.
She went on to say she felt really sorry for me and just wanted to give me a hug.
So let me clarify something – don’t assume to know what’s going on in someone’s life based on what they look like or the goals they’re pursuing.
Your weight is not a representation of your self-worth. Having a desire to lose weight, or build muscle, or get stronger or faster has nothing to do with whether you accept yourself or not.
It doesn’t mean you’re changing for the approval of other people. It doesn’t mean you suddenly have a bad relationship with food or your body. And it doesn’t mean you don’t accept yourself.
People want to change their bodies for all kinds of reasons – quality of life, health, enjoyment, passion, performance. So let people have the autonomy to choose what they want to do with their own bodies.
Over the last few months I have worked extra hard on putting my true self forward – to live my most authentic life for all to see. Frankly, I am in the best mental space I have ever been in my life. And this has nothing to do with my body.
But do you know what I’ve noticed?
There is always someone trying to bring you down and keep you small. I have received more hate in the last few months than I have my entire life. However, I have also received the most appreciation and positivity from others.
There is always a resistance to being yourself and you have to push through that resistance if you want to grow. There will always be people trying to keep you down and shape you into the person THEY want you to be. But there will be even more people ready to accept the real version of you.
So be yourself – unapologetically. Not everyone is going to like you. But the people who do will like the real you.